個人主義-雙重國籍-多樣人格

I have been reading a book called Woman 2 Woman – New Zealand women share their experiences of career and businesses by Amanda Ellis & June McCabe published by Random House. It has got me thinking especially when I get to the first quick quizzes of this book regarding the journey of finding what you really want. The question is as following:

Question: Imagine you’ve won an obscene amount of money on Lotto- so much you never need to work again if you don’t want to. What would you do with the money? How would it change your life and what would you choose to do or buy over the next 12 months? List your top ten in order of priority.

The question sounds interesting so I decide to let my imagination run wild after all I have got nothing to lose by doing this exercise, so let’s begin the journey of inspiring imagination. It is too difficult to prioritize the things I want while I am brainstorming so I will just write them all down by the flow.

First thing comes to my mind is eye surgery for vision correction (4) because I am sick of wearing glasses although my eye vision is not that bad. It would be much easier to see things with my own eye not an artificial one!! This is not the wildest dream but it is the most practical one.

Then it is probably the ability to speak every language in the world (2). My way of travelling is more like getting to know the lifestyle and the way they do things rather than taking a few pictures and going around some tourism attractions. I would prefer spend a couple of years there to be familiar with the culture, the traditional cuisines and the people. With the ability to speak their mother tongue could enable me to be part of them however the money cannot buy this ability, I believe the money I am allowed to have could get me a decent interpreter who could accompany me going places.

With the ability to speak the language, the next of course will be the ability of going around the world without financial concern (3). Wouldn’t it be nice that I am able to be Spanish or German or French or American etc for a period of time and be part of that society? I remember when Mr. T and I went to Maldives nearly 3 years ago, we had good time just talking to the locals, eating their traditional food and been embraced by the unique and fantastic culture of theirs. Nothing could compare to this.

 A dog educational & care centre with unlimited financial support in Taiwan (6) would be definitely on my dream list. By setting up this centre, I wish to educate the public that the street dogs deserve the respect and care like human beings and also to give these innocent dogs a home. Even the mercy killing is better than just letting these poor dogs running around the streets without proper food and shelter. Mercy killing is not a crime but abandonment is.

And I would also like to set up an organization that promotes cultural and eco-tourism (8), I believe it is the only way to preserve the earth and the culture that has been forgeten day after day by the fast-developing society.

Helping my family achieve whatever they wish for (1) is one of my goals without a doubt. It would absolutely be the first priority of all.

Buying a resort in the dream locations with wonderful motivated stuff working for me (5) could be the way to secure the future fortune and the perfect lifestyle. I enjoy working in tourism industry, meeting new people and entertaining. What would be better than working in this kind of environment if the resort were prosperous continually?

If I could develop the cure for all sorts of cancers (7) by the money given to me, I could be able to smoke again without risking my health. I know it sounds silly but I am very seriously and sincerely prying that my prayer could be answered one day.

It said on the book that it would only take 15 minutes to do this exercise, I have taken almost 3 hours to come up with these 8 options. The things have not been appeared to me could not be considered as important. The options I have mentioned above are those I care most and what are your answers to this question?

Picture: Reflection
I have been watching you very closely. I know every move you make and I know who you are better than you do to yourself. I do not intend to harm you but just am curious about you as another human being on the earth.

 We are so the same but so different. You dream a lot and you have been chased or been trying to run away most of the time in your dreams. You know the dreams will give away some of the thoughts you are not even aware of. You try to figure out what the dreams wish to tell you but in vein.

In fact, you hope to get to know who you are through your dreams.

You like to be in the spot light and you are the people person. You like to make people laugh. When the atmosphere is right, you know how to make everyone enjoy themselves via your company. But you have problems keeping friends around; you do not know why it happened.

You are being trustful and truthful to your friends all your life but seem to be unable to get along. You crave for companionship but do not bother socialising with people who are not your kind.

You are ambitious about the career but seem to be getting nowhere. You fairly enjoy your work now but still look forward to working in the bigger company where there would be more opportunity for promotion. You know clearly if you have got what it takes, you can have a great career wherever you choice to be but still have doubts (who does not?). You are looking for a sense of satisfaction either in your life or your career. Neither wealth nor fame could distract you from the job which you could fulfil the sense of contentment.

You have felt fit in a bit in this place as most of people here are as strong minded as you are. You look different but feel closer to yourself. You are adventurous and have itchy feet. You promise yourself to go places once a year and you decide to make it no matter at what costs. One minute you are on top of the world but the next you feel like such a looser. You wonder if you have mental illness (who has not had this thought once a while?).

You have a quick temperament and sometimes you are amazed at what has come out of your month but there is not doubt that you have a heart of gold. You are trying to be tough but actually you are not as tough as you would like to be. The carelessness and clumsiness really make you hopeless sometimes, especially when these avoidable accidents have something damaged. It is natural to blame yourself but would not it be better just being careful next time rather than feeling guilty afterwards. I

 hope by putting down the observations I have learned from you could be helpful to you to know who you are from other point of view. And there is not need to reveal myself. I am a friend who likes to help you and that’s all you should know.

Picture: Fantacy World

It was a shocker when I watched Oprah show yesterday regarding “ The Lifestyle - Swingers”. Suddenly I feel so old-fashioned and perplexed with what’s going with this new era.

At the beginning of the show, they were talking about there are more and more women having affairs because of the busy lifestyle and they started to feel drifted apart form their partners/husbands so they are eager to find the companionship outside of marriage. I wonder if it would be easier to get a divorce than having to lie to your partners/husbands but I guess it is the excitement of deceiving which attracts them to these dangerous games.

Although I do not agree with this idea, I can sort of understand the motive and the reason for this to be happened.

And then they have invited some “swingers” on the show to talk about this new “ lifestyle”. The interviewees were the ordinary couple living in the suburban of America. They have children together and have been in the “lifestyle” for 3 something years. They are not ashamed of the lifestyle they are leading at all. They talked about having sex with other couple openly and one of them even mentioned that there would be no problems for them to discuss this matter with their children. They suggested that this is the prefect way to keep marriage alive by having wild sex party once a while.

 I do not know what to think at all to be honest. I do not know how to explain this to the children that it is okay to have sex with other people while you are married. Where is the traditional value for marriage? Where is the respect for your life partner? Why is their no jealousy while you are watching your love one having sex with strangers?

I do not mean to be judgmental but the whole idea does not seem right to me. People are more open-minded with new age issues/matters such as divorce and affairs etc. Sometimes I wonder if it is bit over the top that the old traditions and values are not been honoured. Take “ Virginity” as example, in the good old days, the girls must be married before giving up their virginity but nowadays, there are more and more under age pregnancy happening in our society. Hard to say which one is “better”, but one thing I know for sure is the right and obligation for decision-making have not been taken seriously.

I do not believe it is a good idea for a kid to look after another kid and it is not fair for either one of them. I do not mean to be sounded like an old lady and start all whole “ good old day” lectures. I value the improvement and the progress we, as human beings on the earth, made but I also wish to preserve some old traditions that is worthwhile to let next generation now.

Just celebrated my birthday at beginning of this month, so probably that’s the reason why I started to relive every event that happened in the life now or in the past and tried to make sense of the whole “ meaning of life” thing.

There is no correct answer to this question. I always get different outcomes at different stage of life. I am not looking for an accurate answer but just a thought to be reviewed once a while and made sure I am still on the right track. Am I on the right track after all? I do not bloody know.