September 22,2005
自私
男歡女愛是人之常情！婚前性行為、未婚生子、同居、同性戀、異性戀，單親家庭、對我來說，都是個人的選擇而已，沒有對錯，沒有人有權利評論好與壞！
但我看不起，只顧享受三分鐘高潮，卻不願負起責任，逃避問題的“父母們”！
墮胎是罪過嗎？！
在我的字典裡，跟棄養比較起來，墮胎的罪過不及棄養來得大。如果還沒準備好，沒有能力照顧另一個生命的情況下，墮胎是對另一個生命的尊重，而懷胎十月生下之後，棄而不顧是自私，是一種情緒謀殺！
棄養，對另一個無辜生命來說，是一輩子的痛，一輩子的折磨。
但，在保險套一盒一百元的社會裡，墮胎和棄養根本不應該發生！
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Posted by Jason
at June 11,2001 06:51
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Posted by T & J
at September 22,2005 08:01
Hi
第一次來妳家
好一個“在保險套一盒一百元的社會裡，墮胎和棄養根本不應該發生！”
這篇文章我投贊成票!!
~.~
第一次來妳家
好一個“在保險套一盒一百元的社會裡，墮胎和棄養根本不應該發生！”
這篇文章我投贊成票!!
~.~
Posted by 貓咪女孩
at September 22,2005 09:49
貓咪女孩, 謝謝來訪。
Posted by T & J
at September 22,2005 10:07
What happened if you are a rape victim? There was a case in Irland before that a 13 year old girl who was being rape and fell pregnant. We all know what Irland's abortion policy was like. I remember it was a special exception, she ended up having an abortion at the end.
I also hate abortion. I reckon under normal circumstances, if you fell pregnant, take the responsiblity and keep the baby.
I also hate abortion. I reckon under normal circumstances, if you fell pregnant, take the responsiblity and keep the baby.
Posted by tankgirly
at September 22,2005 13:24
Tank:
From my point of view, when you are not ready, no matter finacilly or mentally, you should think carefully before having sex without protection.
For rape victims, I do feel for them however I do not have any standing point to tell them what to do. I belive whatever they choose to do, they must take responsibilty and be peach with the decision, either taking abortion or keeping the child.
There are younger teenagers out there who think it is fun to have sex and it is fun to have baby , when they realized they need to put more effort than they thought into parenting or bringing up the child they gave birth to, they might abandan the child. It is not fair for this innocent child. In this case, I guess abortion is not worser than forcing a child to live without support all his/her life and always wonder where his/her parents are.
That's just my point of view, I also dislike the idea of killing an " life" so I said, in this society where you can buy condons for a very low price, either abortion or abandonment should not happen at all.
From my point of view, when you are not ready, no matter finacilly or mentally, you should think carefully before having sex without protection.
For rape victims, I do feel for them however I do not have any standing point to tell them what to do. I belive whatever they choose to do, they must take responsibilty and be peach with the decision, either taking abortion or keeping the child.
There are younger teenagers out there who think it is fun to have sex and it is fun to have baby , when they realized they need to put more effort than they thought into parenting or bringing up the child they gave birth to, they might abandan the child. It is not fair for this innocent child. In this case, I guess abortion is not worser than forcing a child to live without support all his/her life and always wonder where his/her parents are.
That's just my point of view, I also dislike the idea of killing an " life" so I said, in this society where you can buy condons for a very low price, either abortion or abandonment should not happen at all.
Posted by T & J
at September 22,2005 16:55
Dear T&J,
Recently our domenstic help's daughter is pregnant. She's only 16 and still in school. She didn't tell her parents until it's already 4 months old. The family is a devoted Christian one; however, they do regret that they missed the chance of abortion. I suppose most people do agree that without mentally and financially able to take care of the baby, it is a risk to have the baby. Not only the family's life will be affected, but the baby's life as well. Abortion is not a solution resulted from irresponsibility (not in every case though), it's rather a painful decision to prevent future risks. So, yes, I do see your point of view.
Cheers,
Monica
Recently our domenstic help's daughter is pregnant. She's only 16 and still in school. She didn't tell her parents until it's already 4 months old. The family is a devoted Christian one; however, they do regret that they missed the chance of abortion. I suppose most people do agree that without mentally and financially able to take care of the baby, it is a risk to have the baby. Not only the family's life will be affected, but the baby's life as well. Abortion is not a solution resulted from irresponsibility (not in every case though), it's rather a painful decision to prevent future risks. So, yes, I do see your point of view.
Cheers,
Monica
Posted by Monica
at September 22,2005 18:20
同意你的論點，
生命是需要尊重，
亦要尊重自己與對方…
沒有準備好當一個成熟的人，
就不要越過那道禁忌之牆…
生命是需要尊重，
亦要尊重自己與對方…
沒有準備好當一個成熟的人，
就不要越過那道禁忌之牆…
Posted by 塵襲
at September 23,2005 00:02
好敏感的話題....我只有兩個字"贊同"，不過只是單純就我個人立場而言。
Posted by Fierykitten
at September 23,2005 00:16
這就讓我連想到現在據說西班牙是"第二大"到中國領養棄嬰的國家.
我老公舅舅去年也去領養了一個, 每每現在看到她幸福快樂的模樣,
我跟老公都無法想像要是就讓她當年這樣在中國的話會是怎樣的一個狀況...
不敢想不敢想...
我老公舅舅去年也去領養了一個, 每每現在看到她幸福快樂的模樣,
我跟老公都無法想像要是就讓她當年這樣在中國的話會是怎樣的一個狀況...
不敢想不敢想...
Posted by avenchen
at September 23,2005 02:19
Monica:
Recently I am reading a book about the children grew up without parents. It affects me deeply and I can see the life is not as completed that when you have not paretns around.
Giving birth is easy comparing to parenting or raising a child. Terminating a child is hard and is selfish to the mother or father but abandanment is also selfish and torture to the innocent child who should not be punished by this desicion.
I do feel for them and I know what it feels like when you grew up without parents.
How's the life in Africa? Your hubby seems to do well and hope you do too.
塵襲:
曾經有一個我的好朋友，因為男友一句:「我作愛不愛也不想戴保險套！」，墮胎將近五次，這也是一種自私，男女之間的自私，而這樣的行為只是給墮胎壞了名聲了而已。就個人的觀點，墮胎不是壞事，但絕對不是在意外懷孕之後，唯一的處理方式。
但我想在現今社會裡，這種自願性的性行為之前，避免懷孕的機會很多，只看個人而已。
Kitten:
的確是很敏感的話題，只是替那些沒父沒母的小孩們抱不平而已！
Aven:
上次紐西蘭的電視台放了一個記錄片，有一些孤兒院，特別設定一區叫"等死區"，讓不正常男女棄嬰，坐在嬰兒椅上等死，我看著一些小嬰兒因為沒喝奶沒喝水，也沒有換尿布，超過一二個月之後，瘦小沒力氣的樣子！
我的心很痛。
Recently I am reading a book about the children grew up without parents. It affects me deeply and I can see the life is not as completed that when you have not paretns around.
Giving birth is easy comparing to parenting or raising a child. Terminating a child is hard and is selfish to the mother or father but abandanment is also selfish and torture to the innocent child who should not be punished by this desicion.
I do feel for them and I know what it feels like when you grew up without parents.
How's the life in Africa? Your hubby seems to do well and hope you do too.
塵襲:
曾經有一個我的好朋友，因為男友一句:「我作愛不愛也不想戴保險套！」，墮胎將近五次，這也是一種自私，男女之間的自私，而這樣的行為只是給墮胎壞了名聲了而已。就個人的觀點，墮胎不是壞事，但絕對不是在意外懷孕之後，唯一的處理方式。
但我想在現今社會裡，這種自願性的性行為之前，避免懷孕的機會很多，只看個人而已。
Kitten:
的確是很敏感的話題，只是替那些沒父沒母的小孩們抱不平而已！
Aven:
上次紐西蘭的電視台放了一個記錄片，有一些孤兒院，特別設定一區叫"等死區"，讓不正常男女棄嬰，坐在嬰兒椅上等死，我看著一些小嬰兒因為沒喝奶沒喝水，也沒有換尿布，超過一二個月之後，瘦小沒力氣的樣子！
我的心很痛。
Posted by T & J
at September 23,2005 04:50
沒想到孤兒院裡還有叫"等死區"這種設定.讓這些無辜的孩子們坐在那等死,這豈不是更不公平又沒人性的折磨?
生養孩子是一輩子莫大的責任,我對你的看法絕對贊成.
生養孩子是一輩子莫大的責任,我對你的看法絕對贊成.
Posted by 糖果
at September 23,2005 16:02
Hi T&J,
The city we live now is not so busy. It's not as convenient as Taipei, but it does has its lovely side. We are not married yet because we want to see if I can adapt to the life style here first. And besides from the crime rate, everything is perfect in this country.
Re: Your message about studying on my blog.
紐西蘭的學費是不是很貴呢？由於南非的學校大部分都是雙語的 (Afrikaans & English)，而英文的課程又大多排在晚上，所以即使我去上課，白天的時間還是我自己的。而且學費很便宜，我想我是可以自己獨立負擔的起的。我也不希望伸手跟小狗拿錢，因為他現在也是在起步階段，不想增加他負擔。我的唯一顧慮就是學位是否真的對我將來的就業有益，所以還在考慮當中。你呢？你原本想念什麼呢？
Monica
The city we live now is not so busy. It's not as convenient as Taipei, but it does has its lovely side. We are not married yet because we want to see if I can adapt to the life style here first. And besides from the crime rate, everything is perfect in this country.
Re: Your message about studying on my blog.
紐西蘭的學費是不是很貴呢？由於南非的學校大部分都是雙語的 (Afrikaans & English)，而英文的課程又大多排在晚上，所以即使我去上課，白天的時間還是我自己的。而且學費很便宜，我想我是可以自己獨立負擔的起的。我也不希望伸手跟小狗拿錢，因為他現在也是在起步階段，不想增加他負擔。我的唯一顧慮就是學位是否真的對我將來的就業有益，所以還在考慮當中。你呢？你原本想念什麼呢？
Monica
Posted by Monica
at September 23,2005 16:03
雙手雙腳賛成你的看法, 如果真是意外又沒能力扶養, 墮胎雖然不該被鼓勵但也是一種方式, 絕對比把孩子生出來卻遺棄好上千萬倍. 但這些自私的男人卻趁便率性而為的話, 一是男人壞, 二來女人也要檢討. 女人應該要好好珍惜自己, 不管是身體或是心裡, 還能墮胎到五次, 還真不知道要誰該檢討??
Posted by Lisa
at September 24,2005 04:32
糖果：是啊！是在中國大陸裡的人生現實！希望現在已經漸漸消失！
Monica:
我也是在紐西蘭待上將近一年半之後，才決定結婚，我想這之前的相處很重要，畢竟婚姻是一輩子的事，多多考量各方面的因素是好的！
我想再念觀光方面的東西，例如有關文化，人文觀光，或是生態觀光之類，因為我本身是觀光系畢業，所以對這一部份的東西比較有興趣！在紐西蘭如果我要再念的話，是碩士的課程，關於我想念的課程大部份是早上全天課，大約二年左右，如果決定要再念的話，表示我得放葉目前的這份工作。沒有錢的來源，會讓我著急。所以就目前來說，因為工作上不需要再高一層的學歷，我想我還是會再工作個幾年再說！
如果不上學的話，有考慮工作嗎？！
Lisa：
是啊！這樣的女人，我想不只是傻，愛真的使一個人盲目，連這樣的事都做得出來。
Monica:
我也是在紐西蘭待上將近一年半之後，才決定結婚，我想這之前的相處很重要，畢竟婚姻是一輩子的事，多多考量各方面的因素是好的！
我想再念觀光方面的東西，例如有關文化，人文觀光，或是生態觀光之類，因為我本身是觀光系畢業，所以對這一部份的東西比較有興趣！在紐西蘭如果我要再念的話，是碩士的課程，關於我想念的課程大部份是早上全天課，大約二年左右，如果決定要再念的話，表示我得放葉目前的這份工作。沒有錢的來源，會讓我著急。所以就目前來說，因為工作上不需要再高一層的學歷，我想我還是會再工作個幾年再說！
如果不上學的話，有考慮工作嗎？！
Lisa：
是啊！這樣的女人，我想不只是傻，愛真的使一個人盲目，連這樣的事都做得出來。
Posted by T & J
at September 24,2005 09:37
Hi,J,
自己有了小孩後，特別會關心到小孩人身安全的問題，這一兩年來台灣社會不斷地發生虐童事件，看到報導真的令人痛心疾首，生而不養或加以身心的摧虐，都是罪過。
我很任同妳和其他網友關於「墮胎」與避孕的意見，一個生命是個責任，若是這個生命將來無法在安全健全的環境下成長；這個生命將來也會短暫地殞滅，那麼就讓它不曾發生過。
自己有了小孩後，特別會關心到小孩人身安全的問題，這一兩年來台灣社會不斷地發生虐童事件，看到報導真的令人痛心疾首，生而不養或加以身心的摧虐，都是罪過。
我很任同妳和其他網友關於「墮胎」與避孕的意見，一個生命是個責任，若是這個生命將來無法在安全健全的環境下成長；這個生命將來也會短暫地殞滅，那麼就讓它不曾發生過。
Posted by hsing
at September 25,2005 15:41
hsing:
一直很喜歡小孩子，加上現在自已結婚之後，有自已的小孩可能就在不遠的將來，每次聽到這一類虐待孩童，葉嬰之類的社會新聞，心裡總是特別氣慎！雖然自已來自不健全的家庭，但幸運的是，我還是健健康康地在家人的照顧之下長大，成長過程中的一些風風雨雨，只是讓我走得更堅強而已，相比之下，我對這些被不幸的小孩子，感到十分痛心！
在肚子裡的小孩一樣是個生命，不明白為什麼有人得"自願"地走到這一步之後，再來傷害一個新生命，只為了自已一時的不在意？！但也不認同，懷胎十月之後，將孩子"寄放"在別人家之後，就好像完全沒有責任一樣？！這一樣是不公平，二者相較之下，我不太確定那一種的處理方式比較殘忍？
說多了，因為最近的社會新聞，因為最近的天氣！謝謝妳的聆聽！
一直很喜歡小孩子，加上現在自已結婚之後，有自已的小孩可能就在不遠的將來，每次聽到這一類虐待孩童，葉嬰之類的社會新聞，心裡總是特別氣慎！雖然自已來自不健全的家庭，但幸運的是，我還是健健康康地在家人的照顧之下長大，成長過程中的一些風風雨雨，只是讓我走得更堅強而已，相比之下，我對這些被不幸的小孩子，感到十分痛心！
在肚子裡的小孩一樣是個生命，不明白為什麼有人得"自願"地走到這一步之後，再來傷害一個新生命，只為了自已一時的不在意？！但也不認同，懷胎十月之後，將孩子"寄放"在別人家之後，就好像完全沒有責任一樣？！這一樣是不公平，二者相較之下，我不太確定那一種的處理方式比較殘忍？
說多了，因為最近的社會新聞，因為最近的天氣！謝謝妳的聆聽！
Posted by T & J
at September 26,2005 04:33
T&J,
我目前有在做 Part-Time 的工作，是 freelancer。我沒有當地工作證，所以無法在當地工作。而且，在南非除非是特殊技能職業 (醫師、建築師等)，薪水都非常的低。所得落差很大。所以，我目前沒有考慮要在當地找工作。
Monica
我目前有在做 Part-Time 的工作，是 freelancer。我沒有當地工作證，所以無法在當地工作。而且，在南非除非是特殊技能職業 (醫師、建築師等)，薪水都非常的低。所得落差很大。所以，我目前沒有考慮要在當地找工作。
Monica
Posted by Monica
at September 26,2005 15:57
Monica:有沒有工作都好，只要自已快樂就行了！那就學方面呢？決定好了嗎？！
Posted by T & J
at September 27,2005 04:38
I agree. Worse yet, the society as a whole discourages proper sex education and means of controception in the name of love, and sometimes religion. The consequences are teen pregnancy, illiteracy, and poverty. To think that unplanned pregnancy can be prevented in a much less costly way.
Posted by Kay L
at September 27,2005 10:04
Dear T&J,
我今天已經把跟請表格送出去了，雖然我還是猶豫不決，但是想說先送出去再說好了。雖然還缺幾樣東西 (正本成績單畢業證書等等)，我想說就讓老天幫我決定好了。所以平常心看待了。你多久沒回台灣了呢?下次什麼時候回去呢?
Monica
我今天已經把跟請表格送出去了，雖然我還是猶豫不決，但是想說先送出去再說好了。雖然還缺幾樣東西 (正本成績單畢業證書等等)，我想說就讓老天幫我決定好了。所以平常心看待了。你多久沒回台灣了呢?下次什麼時候回去呢?
Monica
Posted by Monica
at September 27,2005 19:30
Kay: Abortion and abandenment can be prevented in a much less costly way indeed. I also believe that it is appropriate to start in the schools and at home. Some people said if they encourage controception of any means, they argue it is also the encouragment for teenagers to have sex. From my point of view, the teenagers will sex one way or another, isn't it better to have sex fully prepared mentally and physically?
Monica:
來紐西蘭三年多了，只回去一次，回去補請喜酒！再說，我們二個開始工作之後，回台灣的機會可能變少，因為如果每年回台灣一次，就代表我們沒有經費和時間到其它國家，所以我想還要等個二三年才能再回去一次吧！妳呢？！下次回台灣是什麼時候啊？
Monica:
來紐西蘭三年多了，只回去一次，回去補請喜酒！再說，我們二個開始工作之後，回台灣的機會可能變少，因為如果每年回台灣一次，就代表我們沒有經費和時間到其它國家，所以我想還要等個二三年才能再回去一次吧！妳呢？！下次回台灣是什麼時候啊？
Posted by T & J
at September 28,2005 04:35
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