November 27,2009
【天真學步兒】二歲三個月的小大人

才短短二歲三個月的時間,丫頭已經從百分之百依賴的新生兒,到現在什麼都要求獨立自主的小大人,每次想到這裡,就對自已能夠有這機會,陪伴著她們長大,而覺得幸運與榮幸,也再次證明,暫時將在外就業的事業心放一邊,是最佳的選擇。
當初在老二出生之前,我們就開始慢慢地讓丫頭適應托兒所的新生活,現在,丫頭每次到托兒所,都是開開心心,加上每周五,丫頭固定到婆婆家作客,這一周二十小時,不僅讓我有喘口氣的時間,我通常也是利用這空檔,處理賣房買地的事宜,從見律師,和建築師會談,或是整理家裡內外,準備讓買家參觀等,都是由我和老二一手包辦。
丫頭的飲食習慣一直都不錯,但最近這幾個月,她對正餐的食慾好像有減少,每天晚餐都要靠說服和要脅,才願意吃完,可是每次到托兒所時,老師都說午餐時間,丫頭至少吃二碗,所以我們目前不太清楚,到底是怎麼一回事。不過即使丫頭正餐吃得比之前少,但因為家裡沒有任何垃圾食物,她倒是喝了不少全脂牛奶和水果,其它時間的飲食尚屬正常,所以整體上來說,還是良好!
丫頭幾個月之前已經開始注意打扮,喜歡穿裙子、綁頭髮和夾髮夾等,自已會穿脫上衣、褲子和鞋子等。目前丫頭還是穿尿布,因為媽媽很懶,事情多,加上是穿布尿布,我實在找不到廁所訓諫的動機,我看再這樣下去,我只能期待丫頭能夠自已訓諫自已上廁所,不然就等到我準備好了再說。
幫忙也是丫頭最擅長的一件事,從曬衣服、洗碗、掃地、幫老二洗澡、換尿布和幫爸媽穿衣服 (是的,我們的衣服有時丫頭幫我們挑的)等,都要插上一手,有時候,我們很高興她願意幫忙,但如果急著出門時,她的好心,有時候會變成被罵的導火線,關於這件事,我們知錯,所以現在,每次要出門至少二小時至二小時半之前,我們就開始慢慢準備,對於很重視守時的我,和喜歡幫忙的丫頭,算是最佳的處理方式。
自從開始上托兒所之後,丫頭的自信心大大增加,和其它小朋友相處愉快,每次若是咖啡團體的小朋友對們來家裡作客,丫頭喜歡叫他們排排坐,自已坐高高當老師,拿本書,大聲地胡言亂語念著。丫頭聽得懂國語、英語和德語,可惜的是,大部份的對話,她開始用英語回答,不過嚴正要求後,她會用國語或是德語回答。
最典型的例子是,每次丫頭要求抱抱,她會說"cuddle",但我會開玩笑問她是不是要"avocados - 酪梨",通常她就會改□說"抱抱"。因為我與她看童書/繪圖書的時間多,所以一些故事和東西的名稱,目前為止,她還是以國語為主,但不知道為什麼,她的國語有些洋人腔,連說一二三也像個洋人般,這一點我應該多加注意!
我們很幸運,有個這麼聽話和聰明的大女兒,丫頭並不是每天都是這麼完美,當然惡魔總有偶而現身的時間,不過大部份來說,丫頭是個快樂,有禮,充滿好奇心的二歲兒,我們的態度是,該讚美的時候,我們真心讚美,該處罰的時候,我們也不會睜一隻眼閉一隻眼,隨著她的長大,每一個過程中都有新的挑戰和喜悅!
成為一個母親,對我來說,是一個情緒化且相當具有挑戰性的角色,我了解自已並不完美,只希望每一天裡,我能夠盡力而為,讓我的孩子們感受愛和安全感,這樣,我就心滿意足了!

Abby eats less at home maybe it's because she wants mommy's attention? I was a kindergarten teacher for a few years, I guess that's the reason.
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T&J said:
Thanks for the suggestions. Abby started to behave this way a few months before Zoe was born. For certain food that she likes, the portion size still remained the same but she becomes less adventurus for anything new or unfamilare. She used to try everything but now she is selective with the food.
I have taken this reason into account but there are still some things that didn't add up.

我也要說那洋人腔-我們家這個今年講的國語都很洋腔!!我還以為只有她會這樣吔,再看狀況吧..呵
加油喔,你真的很棒!!
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T&J said:
謝謝妳!!這一個我也覺得很奇怪!畢竟國語是我的母語,我沒有教有洋人腔的國語,怎麼她說的會是有洋人腔的!這一點的話,可能就要請教其它有經驗的媽媽了!!一起努力!

Hi, I have a son who is similar to Abby's age, his birthday is 8/8. He also sleeps Chinese like westerners, especially the numbers. I think it's because I speak Chinese and my husband speaks German and we live in Ireland. I think Abby is very advanced comparing to my son, he does not put on/take off his clothes and he is not diaper trained. well, I am not ready yet, too lazy. Just want to say that you are such a great mom and so are your daughters, keep up the good work.
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Hello Jennifer:
Thanks for the feedbacks. The potty training can wait until you are both ready to do so. Otherwise it will be just too stressful. Your son also has three lanaguages to master since you guys live in Ireland. Love to keep exchaning these parenting ideas together online. Let me know if you have a blog.

Hi!
Well done!
Our Abigail has kiwi accent in her Mandarin too. My Taiwanese friend's 5 yr old still have the accent, but she speak perfect Mandarin. Funny how I was just teasing Abigail about avocado and cuddle. They are just so cute at the moment.
:)
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Hello Josie: how are you doing?
I am hoping when Zoe starts to talk, we three girls can have proper conversations in Mandarin. Abby was so facinated when I swiched on Mandarin TV programme, I guess she then realized that other than mom, there are some people speak this lanauage too. Cannot wait to take her back to Taiwan, I am sure it will be fun.



