我好奇故我在

Nobody can really make you feel. You make the choice to allow that to trigger a negative emotion.

Having more is not the road to happiness.

蠻喜歡聯合報對蔡康永的訪談：

• 聽到蔡國強這麼說，我超有成就感的。別人的故事，都只是你的鏡子。人都是活在自己城堡裡的小國王，觀眾其實不關心受訪者，而是在想自己的人生，拿自己的人生跟他人比較。
• 蔡國強跟我一樣，一直在挑戰很麻煩的事。以他現在地位，大可以留在舒適、從容的範圍內創作；但他總要找困難的事，這樣的人會帶給別人能量。
• 曾經，北京一群看不懂當代藝術的貴婦問蔡康永：可不可以用十五分鐘跟她們講講蔡國強，為什麼值得花幾千萬元買他「燒焦的紙頭」？
  蔡康永花五分鐘就「征服」貴婦，戰略是「母性」。他說，蔡國強到埃及跟小朋友放風箏（指「天空中的人、鷹與眼睛：為埃及錫瓦做的風箏計畫」），在女人不能拋頭露面的國度，讓孩子畫出媽媽樣子，人形風箏放到天空去，一輩子都會記得。
  蔡康永說，「藝術就是在某個共鳴上給你安慰和啟發，這就值得了」；更何況，蔡國強的作品很容易就十倍增值，光看這點，就值得下手；「不像我的書，脫手時跌一半。老蔡的東西是你得到他靈魂的一部分。」

 

 

source: http://mag.udn.com/mag/people/storypage.jsp?f_MAIN_ID=158&f_SUB_ID=4397&f_ART_ID=224184

書摘：Zero Limits

Ho’oponopono是一種釋放你內在負面能量的方式，讓「神」(不管用什麼名詞稱呼之)可以進入你心中。簡單說，Ho’oponopono就是矯正錯誤。
Ho’oponopono is a process of letting go of toxic energies within you to allow the impact of Divine thoughts,words, deeds, and actions.... “Simply put,Ho’oponopono means,‘to make right,’ or ‘to rectify an error.’

為什麼會有錯誤？錯誤來自對過去痛苦記憶的念頭，這種錯誤會導致不平衡以及生病。
According to the ancient Hawaiians, error arises from thoughts that are tainted by painful memories from the past. ...繼續閱讀

If advertisers spent the same amount of money on improving their products as they do on advertising then they wouldn't have to advertise them.

'You've got to find what you love,' Jobs says

This is the text of the Commencement address by Steve Jobs, CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered on June 12, 2005.

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

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「你喜歡什麼樣的對象？」這個問題單身的朋友都會被問到吧，有一個婚姻輔導心理學家，列出25個最熱門的必備條件與25個一般人最不能忍受的項目，希望單身者好好認識自己，在選擇出10個你覺得很重要的條件，以及10個你最不能接受的條件。因為如果另一半跟你的雷同度愈高，代表生活愈有交集，比較能分享生活。

清單有哪些呢？

25個最熱門的必備條件 情緒的健康 有個性 精力水平 聰明才智 化學作用 經濟的穩定 親密的話語 解決衝突的技巧 個人習慣 屬靈生命 共同興趣 相似的政治和社會觀點 有興趣生養孩子，也具備做好父母的能力 個性 價值觀 才幹 野心 年齡 種族 宗教關係 教育 性的歷史 身高和體型 臉型 衣著

25個一般人最不能忍受的 說謊 不忠 跋扈 不善理財 不善控制怒氣 黃色書刊 酗酒跟吸毒 吸煙 賭博 性強迫症 邋遢 懶惰 拖延 多嘴 言行不當 吝嗇 講髒話 依賴別人 自大傲慢 極端害羞 不同的音樂品味 不同的信仰 正確的政治觀 魯莽駕駛 狂熱份子

source: http://www.en-derin.com/artworks/funny-bumper-stickers

節錄幾個有趣的!

<成名後的訪談Mark Zuckerberg>
source: Startup School: An Interview With Mark Zuckerberg

Q: I want to go way back, before Facebook. What did you learn from those experiences?
A: I mostly built stuff that I liked. When I got to college I started messing around with other programs. There’s this story — I was making Facebook the week before finals, and there was a class where you had to learn all these pieces of arts. I was supposed to be studying, but instead I was learning Facebook. A few days before the exam I was screwed. I took all the images, make a website, where you could add notes to each image, and it was a ’study tool’ where everyone else filled in all the notes that I needed to pass the class. After that the professor said it had the best grades of any final he’d ever given. This was my first social hack. With Facebook, I wanted to make something that would make Harvard (and more open that) more open.

<謠言？>
source:
Facebook背後的那一面(The Accidental Billionaires)
http://socialnetworking.lovetoknow.com/How_Did_Facebook_Originate

Facebook是由Saverin和Zuckerberg共同創辦的，他們在2003年10月哈佛大學大學部就學時，結為莫逆之交。朋友建議之下Saverin開始運作Facemash.com，使用者可以比較兩張女大學生的照片，票選誰比較辣，然後用數學計算方式演算出校內最正的女生是誰。Facemash.com短暫存在一個下午就掀起極大的波瀾， 除了照片授權的合法性，更因為占去了全校的頻寬被大加撻伐，甚至引起校內女性團體強烈的抨擊。

Mark Zuckerberg, a sophmore at the time, created the site Facemash in October of 2003. He created a version of the popular site Hot or Not exclusively for Harvard students.

Like Hot or Not, Facemash would show the user two pictures of people (normally young women) and ask the user to rate who was more attractive. In the case of Facemash, the young women displayed were members of Harvard’s nine houses.

In order to get the site to work, Zuckerberg had to hack into Harvard’s private network and grab photos from each house’s dormitory ID pictures. Within a few days, the site was shut down by the Harvard administration. Understandably, Zuckerberg was charged with a breach of security, and was set to be expelled. The charges were eventually dropped, and he was allowed to stay at Harvard.

source: http://minds.myweb.hinet.net/growth/hearing.htm

聆聽不是保持沈默，而是仔細聽聽對方說了什麼、沒說什麼，以及真正的涵意。聆聽也不是指說話或發問；通常我們會急於分享自己的故事，或詢問對方問題，以為這樣就是聆聽該有的姿態。然而，所謂的聆聽，應該是用我們的眼、耳和心去聽對方的聲音，同時不急著立刻知道事情的前因後果。我們必須願意把自己的「內在對話」暫拋一邊。所謂的「內在對話」，是指聆聽的同時，在腦海中不自覺進行的對話，包括動腦筋想著該說什麼、如何回應對方的話，或盤算著接下來的話題。

安慰是指：給予他們空間去做自己、並認同自己的感覺。我們不需要透過「同意或反對」他們的選擇或處理困境的方法，來表達關心。